As a mom it’s really hard to find the time to take care of ourselves. We are so busy taking care of others, especially these little children who depend on us, that we neglect ourselves. We often neglect our needs in order to serve others. Over the last several months, I’ve been increasingly guilty of that. I’ve poured so much time, love, and energy into my kids, my business, and others, that I neglected to make sure my needs were met too. I found myself run down, exhausted, and unable to give as much as I would like. So I’m making an effort to make this month a month of self care. I’m setting goals, and I’m encouraging every other woman out there to do the same. The fact is that it’s impossible to take care of others, when you don’t take care of yourself. If the glass is completely empty, then there’s nothing to share. Your children, your partners, your family, your friends, your work, all benefit from you taking time to take care of you.
So I’m coining September, Self-care September. Each day, I plan to find some way to practice self care. I’m encouraging everyone else to do the same. I’ll be posting pictures on my instagram and my facebook page of the ways I’m practicing self care that day. I would love it if anybody else would do the same. Use #selfcareseptemberJND and tag me, if you want. I’d love to see how others are taking time to nurture and love themselves. My personal goal is AT LEAST 30 minutes each day, and AT LEAST 2 hours every weekend doing something that is just for me. Something that refreshes my soul and relaxes my body. Your goal may be way more or less. All I ask is that you make a goal for yourself and stick to it.
Practicing self care is going to look different for each person. It doesn’t have to be anything extravagant. It doesn’t have to be a exotic vacation or a spa day. Don’t get me wrong. It can be, and if you have the opportunity then go for it! But it can also mean taking time each evening to read a chapter from a book you’ve been wanting to read while sipping on a glass of wine. It may mean waking up early one morning to go for a run or do yoga BY YOURSELF. It could mean asking your husband to get up with the kids for one night or to wake up in the morning with them so you can sleep in. It could mean planning a ladies night (kid free), or getting your favorite dessert (and not sharing it). It could mean a nice long bath with no interruptions. Or going to a movie or a fancy restaurant, some place you’d never attempt to go with children. It could mean taking a day trip someplace special. It could be going to get a massage or pedicure. It could be going to get your hair styled. It could be taking a pottery class or dance class or karate class or any class that you have been wanting to take, but didn’t feel you had time to. It could be taking the time to learn something new, painting, sewing, baking, a new language. It could be going to a therapy session or support group. It could be curling up on the couch and watching an episode of your favorite show, with no interruptions. It could be shopping alone or sending your children off for a few hours with someone you trust, just so you can have time to yourself. It really doesn’t matter what it is that you do to take care of you. It just has to be something that you enjoy. Something that doesn’t feel like an obligation. It has to be something that is going to help replenish you and make you feel better. It has to be something that you are doing for you. In the end, it will benefit all those around you, but do it first to benefit you. Love yourself. Take care of yourself, so that your cup is full enough to pour out to others. Don’t let it run dry.
Follow me on facebook and instagram to see what I’m doing for self care. Please share this with others. I want to see as many women as possible taking time for self care. Remember use hashtag #selfcareseptemberJND and tag me @joyfulnoisedoula when posting your pictures <3